Character Arc Enquire

Years 7–12 · K–12 resource

100 ways to build feel-good conversations.

Everyday words and actions that help every student feel safe, seen and included. Each Way shows what to say, how it makes the other person feel, and the logical result that follows.

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OneSay

A kind word or act from one student.

TwoFeel

The other person feels safe and seen.

ThreeRespond

Good feelings make a kind reply likely.

FourRipple

Others see it and copy it.

Each kind reply starts the next conversation, so the wave keeps growing.

The 100 Ways

Say it, feel it, see what happens next.

Kindness is not luck. Each Way follows the same logical pattern, so students can see why good conversations lead to good outcomes.

Say or dothe words or actionThey feel the emotion it createsNextwhat that feeling makes more likely
Ways 1 to 20

Greeting and including

Being noticed is the first step to feeling safe. These Ways open the door.

  1. 1“Hey, [name]!” using their nameThey feelSeenNextThey greet you back next time
  2. 2Smile and make eye contactThey feelWelcomeNextThey relax around you
  3. 3“Want to join us?”They feelIncludedNextOne fewer person alone
  4. 4Open the circle so a new person can step inThey feelAcceptedNextThe group grows naturally
  5. 5“I don’t think we’ve met. I’m ___.”They feelValuedNextA new friendship can start
  6. 6“Come sit with us.”They feelWantedNextLunch stops feeling scary
  7. 7Wave to someone across the playgroundThey feelRememberedNextThey feel connected all day
  8. 8“Good morning! How was your weekend?”They feelCared aboutNextThey share and you learn about them
  9. 9Save a spot for someoneThey feelThought ofNextThey trust you more
  10. 10Introduce two people who don’t know each otherThey feelConnectedNextYour circle and theirs both grow
  11. 11“You can be on our team.”They feelChosenNextThey try harder and enjoy the game
  12. 12Explain the game rules to a newcomerThey feelCapableNextThey join in with confidence
  13. 13“We’re playing ___. Do you want in?”They feelInvitedNextFewer students wander alone
  14. 14Notice someone alone and walk overThey feelNot forgottenNextLoneliness is interrupted
  15. 15Remember something they told youThey feelImportantNextConversations go deeper
  16. 16“Welcome back! We missed you.”They feelMissedNextReturning to school feels easier
  17. 17Speak to younger students kindlyThey feelSafeNextThey copy kindness as they grow
  18. 18Include quieter people in group chat or plansThey feelBelongingNextQuiet students speak up more
  19. 19“See you tomorrow!”They feelLooked forward toNextThey want to come back
  20. 20Say goodbye before leaving a groupThey feelRespectedNextNo one feels dropped
Ways 21 to 40

Listening and showing interest

People open up to those who listen. Listening turns small talk into real connection.

  1. 21Put your phone away when someone talksThey feelRespectedNextThey tell you more
  2. 22Nod and face the speakerThey feelHeardNextThey feel safe to keep going
  3. 23“What happened next?”They feelInterestingNextThe story keeps flowing
  4. 24Let them finish before you speakThey feelValuedNextFewer arguments start
  5. 25“So you mean ___?” (check you understood)They feelUnderstoodNextMisunderstandings are avoided
  6. 26“How are you really going?”They feelCared forNextReal feelings can come out
  7. 27Ask about their hobbyThey feelSpecialNextThey light up and share
  8. 28“That sounds hard.”They feelSupportedNextStress starts to ease
  9. 29“That’s so cool!” when they share good newsThey feelCelebratedNextHappy moments grow bigger
  10. 30Don’t change the topic to yourselfThey feelImportantNextThey feel the talk is about them
  11. 31Ask follow-up questionsThey feelInterestingNextConversations last longer
  12. 32Keep a private story privateThey feelTrustedNextThey come to you again
  13. 33“Tell me more.”They feelEncouragedNextShy students say more
  14. 34Notice their mood: “You seem quiet today.”They feelNoticedNextThey can ask for help
  15. 35Stay calm when they share something upsettingThey feelSafeNextThey stay calm too
  16. 36Don’t laugh at their worriesThey feelRespectedNextThey share worries early
  17. 37“What do you think?”They feelSmartNextThey join decisions
  18. 38Remember their important datesThey feelRememberedNextThe friendship deepens
  19. 39Give your full attention for one minuteThey feelPrioritisedNextShort talks feel meaningful
  20. 40“Thanks for telling me.”They feelBraveNextThey trust you with more
Ways 41 to 60

Encouraging and appreciating

A genuine compliment costs nothing and lifts two people: the receiver and the giver.

  1. 41“Nice shot!”They feelProudNextThey keep trying
  2. 42“You’re really good at ___.”They feelCapableNextConfidence grows
  3. 43“Thanks for helping me.”They feelAppreciatedNextThey help again
  4. 44“You can do it!” before a test or gameThey feelBelieved inNextNerves drop
  5. 45Praise effort: “You worked so hard on that.”They feelRespectedNextThey value effort over winning
  6. 46“Good game” to the other teamThey feelRespectedNextRivalry stays friendly
  7. 47Cheer for someone who isn’t usually pickedThey feelIncludedNextThey feel part of the team
  8. 48“I like your idea.”They feelCreativeNextMore ideas get shared
  9. 49“Don’t worry, everyone makes mistakes.”They feelRelievedNextThey try again instead of quitting
  10. 50Notice improvement: “You’ve gotten so much better.”They feelSeenNextThey keep practising
  11. 51Thank the teacher or canteen staffThey feelValuedNextSchool feels warmer for everyone
  12. 52Share credit: “We did it together.”They feelEqualNextTeamwork gets stronger
  13. 53High five or thumbs upThey feelCelebratedNextEnergy lifts the whole group
  14. 54“You made my day.”They feelMeaningfulNextThey spread kindness too
  15. 55Tell someone a kind thing another person saidThey feelLikedNextTwo friendships grow
  16. 56“Your art / work / song is amazing.”They feelTalentedNextThey share more creativity
  17. 57“I’m glad you’re here.”They feelBelongingNextThey feel safe at school
  18. 58Encourage a nervous speakerThey feelSupportedNextTheir voice gets stronger
  19. 59“I learned something from you.”They feelWiseNextThey teach and share more
  20. 60Say thank you for small thingsThey feelNoticedNextGratitude becomes the norm
Ways 61 to 80

Handling disagreement and repair

Disagreements are normal. Calm words stop them growing into fights, and repair makes friendships stronger than before.

  1. 61Take a breath before replyingThey feelNot attackedNextThe argument cools down
  2. 62“I feel ___ when ___.”They feelNot blamedNextThey listen instead of defending
  3. 63“Let’s take turns.”They feelTreated fairlyNextThe game continues
  4. 64“Can we try your way, then mine?”They feelRespectedNextBoth people win
  5. 65“I see your point.”They feelUnderstoodNextThey see yours too
  6. 66Lower your voice when it gets heatedThey feelCalmerNextShouting stops
  7. 67“I’m sorry. That wasn’t okay.”They feelRespectedNextTrust is rebuilt
  8. 68Accept an apology: “Thanks, we’re good.”They feelForgivenNextThe friendship moves on
  9. 69“Let’s ask a teacher to help.”They feelSafeNextProblems are solved fairly
  10. 70Walk away from a fight, not a personThey feelRespectedNextNo one gets hurt
  11. 71“Can we talk about it later?”They feelGiven spaceNextBoth calm down first
  12. 72Talk privately, not in front of a crowdThey feelNot embarrassedNextHonest repair is possible
  13. 73“What would make this fair?”They feelHeardNextA solution appears
  14. 74Agree to disagree kindlyThey feelAcceptedNextDifferent views are allowed
  15. 75Don’t bring up old mistakesThey feelFresh startNextArguments don’t repeat
  16. 76“I didn’t mean it that way.”They feelClearerNextMisunderstandings are cleared
  17. 77Check in after a fight: “Are we okay?”They feelValuedNextThe friendship is repaired
  18. 78Don’t spread the argument to othersThey feelProtectedNextNo sides or drama form
  19. 79Joke gently to ease tension, never at themThey feelRelaxedNextLaughter replaces anger
  20. 80“Thanks for working it out with me.”They feelMatureNextNext time is easier
Ways 81 to 100

Standing up, kindness and building the wave

One kind act is a ripple. Many kind acts together become a wave that changes the whole playground.

  1. 81“Hey, that’s not cool” when someone is teasedThey feelProtectedNextTeasing loses its audience
  2. 82Stand next to someone being left outThey feelNot aloneNextBullies lose power
  3. 83Refuse to laugh at a mean jokeThey feelDefendedNextMean jokes stop being funny
  4. 84Tell a trusted adult when someone is unsafeThey feelSafeNextHelp arrives early
  5. 85Don’t share hurtful photos or messagesThey feelRespectedNextOnline harm stops with you
  6. 86“Are you okay?” after something upsettingThey feelCared forNextThey get support sooner
  7. 87Share your snack, ball or equipmentThey feelWelcomeNextSharing becomes normal
  8. 88Help pick up dropped thingsThey feelHelpedNextKindness is copied
  9. 89Speak up for someone who isn’t thereThey feelRespectedNextGossip stops
  10. 90Use kind words online tooThey feelSafe everywhereNextSchool and online feel the same
  11. 91Respect “no” and personal spaceThey feelSafeNextTrust grows
  12. 92Celebrate differences: “Teach me about that.”They feelProud of who they areNextEveryone feels they belong
  13. 93Help a younger student find their wayThey feelLooked afterNextSeniors become role models
  14. 94Start a game everyone can playThey feelIncludedNextMixed groups form
  15. 95Notice and name kindness: “That was kind of you.”They feelRecognisedNextMore kindness follows
  16. 96Invite someone different each weekThey feelWelcomeNextFriendship groups open up
  17. 97Be the same kind person in every groupThey feelTrustingNextPeople feel safe with you
  18. 98Pass on a kindness someone gave youThey feelPart of somethingNextThe ripple keeps travelling
  19. 99Lead by example when others watchThey feelInspiredNextOthers copy good behaviour
  20. 100Ask yourself: “How will my words make them feel?”They feelRespectedNextEvery conversation starts well
For teachers

The same 100 Ways, from Kindergarten to Year 12.

What changes with age is how much students explain the logic behind each Way.

StageFocusHow to teach itStart with Ways
Early Stage 1 to Stage 1 (K–2)Kind words, sharing, turnsPuppets, picture cards, happy face and sad face sorting1, 3, 41, 63, 87
Stage 2 (Years 3–4)Including and listeningRole-play pairs, Ripple Wall sticky notes13, 22, 43, 67, 95
Stage 3 (Years 5–6)Repair and fairnessScenario cards, “what happens next?” chains25, 62, 73, 77, 82
Stage 4 (Years 7–8)Belonging, group dynamics, online kindnessDiscussion circles, peer modelling18, 34, 78, 85, 90
Stage 5 (Years 9–10)Standing up and influenceDebates on cause and effect, student-led workshops81, 83, 89, 97, 99
Stage 6 (Years 11–12)Leadership and mentoringPeer mentors run sessions for younger students10, 59, 93, 96, 98

Ripple Chain

Pick a Way. In pairs, write the next three things that might happen after it.

Flip It

Rewrite an unkind comment using a Way, then compare how each version feels.

Playground Detective

For one week, spot Ways at recess and tally them on a class Ripple Wall.

Role-Play Replay

Act out a disagreement twice: once without the Ways, once with Ways 61 to 80.

Wave Challenge

Each student tries one Way every day for a week. The class counts the ripples.

My Ripple Tracker

A student page for logging each Way, how the other person felt, and what happened next.

The resource

Bring the 100 Ways into your classroom or home.

  • All 100 Ways in five colour-coded sets
  • The Feel-Good Ripple diagram
  • A K–12 stage guide and five activities
  • The My Ripple Tracker student page
100 Ways Printable PDF · 10 pages · K–12 Get the resource

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